Let go of the past, live in the present
As women, we want to be happy, confident, resourceful and at peace with ourselves and others. But being at peace is not always easy. Sometimes – or maybe most of the time – our inner lives can be painful. And however hard we try, we seem to be stuck with the same old struggles and memories, heartache, pain, depression and distress.
Emotional peace and wellbeing would be easy if we didn’t have to cope with past traumas, rejection, loss, abuse, the things we let happen, the things we learned about ourselves, and all the other ways we make our lives difficult.
From early childhood, we learn to store emotions in our bodies and without a release or a way out they cause blockages within our system, both physically and emotionally. This in turn can lead to issues ranging from 'coping mechanisms' such as over-eating, biting your finger nails and negative self-talk all the way to anxiety, PTSD or ill health.
If you are struggling with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) or the memories of family trauma or abuse, I am an EFT therapist helping women in the Melbourne area, and all around the world, let go of the things that no longer serve them.
Does this sound like you?
- You want to let go of traumatic memories and release the emotional – and physical – hurt.
- You want to become your true, capable self.
- You want to be free of your inner judge, changing self-criticism into self-confidence.
- You want to be your own person, empowered to stand up and ask for what you want.
- You want to be able to accept yourself and just get on with life and enjoy it.
You may have struggled with your problems for years. You’ve read self-help books, attended workshops, been to counselling, therapists and healers, yet still feel stuck. You start thinking there’s something wrong with you and there’s nothing you can do about it.
The good news is the emotional peace, forgiveness and wellbeing you long for is easier to find than you might imagine.
If you'd like help to overcome the heartbreak of past family trauma, abuse or anxiety then EFT therapy can help.
Down to earth, pragmatic, spiritual and holistic
I’m an EFT therapist based near Melbourne. I live in the beautiful suburb of Belgrave Heights
I have a very down to earth and pragmatic, spiritual and holistic approach. I feel like I've been counselling and coaching people my entire life. Even from a young age I was always there for people and just had a knack of knowing what to say to bring comfort.
My clients say that I'm intuitive and seem to know how to hone in on what the problem really is. I can see all sides of the story and I am able to shed light on situations, so that you can release your pain through forgiveness and understanding of others.
If you are struggling with stress, heartbreak, depression, trauma, PTSD or the emotional scars of abuse then I can help you, using EFT counselling, to turn your life and your thought patterns around. Please don't be afraid to look at your story. I'll be with you every step of the way and I'll make it as easy for you as I possibly can.
If you are not based in or around Melbourne, we can connect online through Skype or over the phone.
The power of EFT and how it can help you
Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) is an emotional version of acupuncture, but without the needles. We stimulate meridian points on the surface of the skin by tapping on them with our finger tips. These points have a connection to the amygdala which is the part of the brain responsible for emotions, survival instincts and memory. It very cleverly interrupts the signals and patterns that our past experiences have created within our brain and this then leads to a feeling of freedom.
EFT has been shown time and time again to reduce the conventional talk therapies, like counselling and psychology, from months and / or years to a few sessions, a few hours – and in some cases, even just a few minutes.
What makes this technique even more appealing, especially when trying to deal with the memories of past family abuse and trauma, suffering with PTSD or anxiety, is that this therapy can be done either via Skype or over the phone. You won't have to travel to Belgrave Heights if you're not local or if you don't feel up to leaving the house.
Past trauma, including family and childhood trauma and inner child therapist - Melbourne
EFT is the leading and preferred treatment for veterans that come back from war suffering with PTSD. Unfortunately more and more women are showing signs of PTSD and its symptoms due to traumatic events, as are children that have grown up in highly unstable environments. They deny they are suffering with PTSD, however, as it is associated so heavily with people coming back from war and they don't believe they warrant such a severe labelling of their traumas. They may even worry that they'll be laughed at.
Most people think that PTSD is limited to flashbacks but it actually goes a lot deeper than that. Symptoms of PTSD include but are not limited to anxiety or panic attacks, fear, insomnia or nightmares, a feeling of loneliness or wanting to isolate yourself from the outside world, hyper-vigilance, hostility and even self-destructive behaviour.
Because EFT interrupts and can sever or break the brain signals and patterns (ie, the memories) that cause you to relive an event or situation, you'll find that you no longer associate the emotions of that time with the past thought of it. You will literally release or 'let go' of them, so they are no longer a part of you and your thought patterns.
For example, if you think about an incident that has happened to you and you replay it step by step in your mind, you'll notice that your body reacts accordingly, like it’s happening all over again:
• Are your shoulders tight?
• Are you holding your breath?
• Are your fists or stomach clenched?
That is your unconscious mind messing with you because it can't tell the difference between what’s actually happening right now, what is a daydream, or what happened in the past.
When using EFT you'll find yourself disassociating with the event or, to put it another way, you'll either start to see it from a third person point of view, like you're watching a movie, or you may even find you can’t connect with it at all, that is, you can no longer find it within your memory bank. It just vanishes.
The emotions surrounding the incident will no longer have any attachment to you. The flashback or memory recall of it will be non-existent and you'll find yourself feeling peaceful and in control again. This is what makes EFT therapy so powerful. Releasing the emotional stress from past traumas or abuse, that you have been carrying around for all those years, is life changing and an incredibly healing process.
Most people claim that they feel physically lighter after an EFT session, like a weight they didn't even know they were carrying has been lifted. It's like dropping an 'emotional' dress size and the feeling of freedom you'll feel is empowering and almost hard to describe unless you've actually experienced it for yourself.
If you're keen to find some peacefulness within your life I urge you to give EFT a try.
How do memories get 'stuck'?
If you were ever told as a child "don't cry" or "big girls/boys don't cry" then you were being programmed, innocently, by your parents and family. It was a subliminal message to your brain that you shouldn't be crying. Break down into tears a few more times and receive the same response - a connection has now been formed. From here on in, and you may have noticed it as you got older, that whenever you cried there was a little voice in your head telling you to stop, to not be stupid, to grow up or I'm not supported (or some variation of that). So on occasions where we want to cry, purely because it's a release of emotions, we stuff it back down. We swallow it and carry on with other things that can distract us from our true feelings. (Food and alcohol are the number one distractions for avoiding what it is we need to feel).
What about getting angry? If you got in trouble when you were younger for venting your anger and so learnt to swallow it for fear of being persecuted, then you may have carried the behaviour of 'burying it' well into adulthood.
Anger and sadness are all perfectly healthy - venting is healthy. But we have been taught, from a very early age, to not express what we're feeling.
When you have to 'swallow' an emotion, it doesn't feel good, does it?
When there is so much anger, rage or sadness in you and you have to pretend you're ok, it can feel like you're about to burst. That emotion that you're swallowing is compounding onto other previous events or situations that you have buried. Emotions don't just dissipate - they effect the body. Have you ever 'bitten your tongue' and pushed an emotion down only to end up with an instant headache or stomach ache? It's your body telling you that it's had enough and it needs to let things go. If it gets really bad and you let this build up over time then other ailments can appear in the form of allergic reactions, bad backs or slipped discs, eczema all the way through to depression, PTSD and even severe illnesses. Your mind and your body are connected but it all comes back to your programming and how you were taught to deal with your feelings.
The good news is that all of this, everything you are holding onto, can not only be permanently released but it can also be permanently reprogrammed with EFT therapy.
Anxiety, abuse & family trauma therapy in Belgrave Heights
My passion is helping women, just like you, let go of the stress, heartache, depression and trauma of the past.
Trauma comes in many different shapes and sizes. Don't be put off and think that you should "just deal with it" or "suck it up" because you've heard worse stories of things that have happened to others. Trauma and anxiety can effect us even with having only witnessed an event. My rule is: If it is effecting you and causing you pain and suffering, you just can't seem to let it go and move past it or you are reliving it and it's haunting you, then it is a 'trauma to you'.
I would love to connect with you either at my home in Belgrave Heights just outside of Melbourne, online via Skype or over the phone. As an EFT therapist, life coach and counsellor I work with women who feel it's time to break the emotional connection with the memories of past life experiences including abuse and trauma.
If you are now at the stage where you have either been diagnosed with PTSD or you believe you are suffering with it, or you're having anxiety/panic attacks, then emotion freedom technique (EFT) will be able to help you break that pattern and emotional connection permanently.
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